To not be braggy and full of yourself, another definition is that shy feeling you get when someone brags about how great you are, or when you need to take off your shirt to go swimming and showing skin makes you squirm. If you blush, you’ve got some modesty.
is a painful feeling that's a mix of regret, self-hate, and dishonor. A good person would feel shame if they cheated on a test or did something mean to a friend.
In order to developed this topic very common at times in the Massage room, it is necessary to know the definition of modesty and shame. When we looked at their respective meaning and we find keywords to consider " self hate", "blush", "shy", " dishonor", painful feeling"; now these key words we are going to try to transported to the Massage session. When individuals in most cases females come for Massage Therapy when the therapist may ask them to undress or disrobe ( of course without the Therapist be present) more often than seldom they mentioned "I AM VERY MODEST" what you want me to removed? most females feel self hate, shame, dishonor, shy and blush due to their bodies (shape, size etc.). and is nothing to do with manners, religious belief and traditions. In my experience the same females whom have been the most strong minded with the so called MODESTY are the same ones whom have traveled to: Bali, Thailand, Europe , Africa, San Diego & San Francisco bringing with them interesting stories of how in the said countries/cities they were Massage UN drape, undress or nude and with good reviews. When I hear these stories I wonder if the saying "MODESTY" OR "BEING MODEST" was left behind in the USA or in Texas to be pick up at the arrival in their Airport, it seems that they didn't pack it up with their luggage.
I have heard stories from females clients stating: " I went to see the Doctor for PAIN in my little finger and he asked me to undress although my problem was in my little finger only" and I said to her: Did you ask him why? Did you do as he said? their answer was " I did as the Doctor told me", as we can see according to this first hand statement if the Doctors says it, is AMEN however, when Massage Therapist do tell them as the Doctor did: "PLEASE, UNDRESS YOURSELF" then they looked us like ignorant, UN educated people, unskillful individuals, it is a petty that after over 500 years of Massage Therapy; clients and other health care professionals belief that the Massage Therapist are just skin rubbers and cookie cutters without any formal training or education.
There are massage techniques which don't require for the client to undress or get nude ( as most people commonly refer to) , some modalities/Techniques such as: Lymphatic Drainage, Hawaiian Lomi-lomi, Manual Therapy for the Female Breast tissue, Visceral Massage, some Tao sessions etc. it is preferable that the client undress completely to facilitate the flow of the session and its healing outcomes.
One time, a female told me very honestly: " Manuel, is it much better to undress for a Doctor than for a Massage Therapist". I am very glad to have heard this statement because that's exactly what I was wondering for all these years and finally her statement confirm it.
We lives in a double standard society which disregard the true values in the Bible which is not from puritan origins since in the Holly Book there are instructions for Science such as Physics, Math, Business, Sex, Health etc. Most people that proclaimed to be " MODEST" lives a life of selective modesty of some sort, they carried a load of guilt, shame, self dishonor or unfortunately they were abused at some point in their life.
Is there something wrong or immoral to undress for Massage, or when fulfilling their marriage duty stated in the Bible?. On the contrary, if nudity is used for the exchange of money, influence, power,exhibition then it is wrong and such as act should be deal with accordingly.
In my practice, I tell every one my goal here is to do my best for you to be functional again despite of how long your injuries, tightness, and health issues has been there, I will be wasting my time if I stop to admire your anatomy after years of seeing bodies of different shape and forms then I should quit. I am looking for what/where are the dysfunction in order to fix it, which doesn't give a room for other things.
I would like to thank my clients for sharing with me their travelling and daily life experiences.